October 19, 2019

Past/Present/Future Tense

Live in The Present Moment Live in The Present Moment is sometimes really good advice.

And sometimes it actually really isn’t.

Be Present! I don’t just hear this a lot, it’s something I say a lot, and write about a lot myself: The Now is where our joy lives! That’s the only place we can experience happiness from, so learning to be more present is a valuable and worthwhile life skill. Which is true.

It’s not the answer though to every situation. Sometimes reflection is really valuable – it allows us to look back, see what’s worked, what hasn’t, and adjust our boundaries and expectations accordingly. And sometimes projecting forward to how we will feel when we have accomplished a particular thing is a really helpful way of creating momentum and motivation.

We all have a pattern. Some people are predominantly past-focused. About that break up that’s years past. The thing their mother should have said but didn’t. The career path that just didn’t work out. When we spend the majority of our time in the past we tend to have prevailing emotions of sadness, anger, regret. It’s heavy work being past-focused, and it makes it hard to connect to the good that might be present right now if we looked hard enough.

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