December 10, 2018

The Good Thing About Bad Times

The Good Thing About Bad TimesIf there is one thing I have learned as a professional coach it’s that everyone has “gone through stuff”. Everyone. No exceptions.

It’s a universal truth. Life contains a number of rocky roads to travel and it seems no one gets to bypass them entirely, however much we would like to.

It might look like someone else is getting a bye, and gliding through to the next round with everything in life going their way. But trust me, they will have had A Thing. At some point, something awful, sad, shocking, terrifying WILL have happened to them. I can absolutely guarantee it.

It’s interesting, because we humans fight so hard against these rocky times, feeling that they “shouldn’t happen” in some way. Or at least not to us! But…what if… if we accepted that we just got handed Our Thing, and somewhere in the midst of that inevitable Thing was some seed of an opportunity that we couldn’t yet grasp?

I have found during my own tough times that there is officially nothing, and I mean nothing, more irritating than someone trilling “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger! It’s all happened for a reason!” In the midst of horror in my own life the only possible response to that well meaning comment has been to fight the urge to vigorously high five that well intentioned person. In the face. With a chair.

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